Ladies, you’re as much to blame as the men. I’m serious.
July 16, 2012
Women, we need to talk.
To say that women have had body issues is like saying the Titanic suffered from a leaky bulkhead. The triggers are everywhere: movies, magazines, sexism, and the prevalent belief that women can’t be powerful, confident, AND beautiful. It’s enough to make you sick. Recent incidents have made me think it’s not just the men, though.
Ladies, you need to pick up the slack.
I’m convinced that women put themselves down more than men put them down. That’s not to say men don’t do their fair of damage. I’m saying that women need to at least put themselves up on a pedestal. It’s not a matter of being conceited or full of yourselves. It’s about knowing what you’re good at, knowing that you’re a beautiful person, knowing that no one can put you down but yourself at the end of the day.
Look at these actresses that play “ugly” people on TV. Seriously… skew the makeup a little, put on some frumpy clothes… and that’s enough to qualify otherwise beautiful women as unattractive? I watch science fiction and even I find that one a stretch. Warp drive’s more believable.
The thing that really set me off, though, was the protest at Teen Vogue earlier this month. Young women protested the magazine’s use of photo-manipulation to make the models look “prettier.” They felt it sent the wrong message. It does. And how did this all end? Vogue invited some of the protestors up to talk… and gave them a five minute lecture on how they should try harder to be prettier.
Just imagine the alpha bitch at any high school and you get the idea of what these protestors sat through.
Then you have actual websites that track how skinniness… and one particular website has targeted Kate Upton as too fat.
Beauty is a matter of attitude. How well do you handle yourself? It’s not entirely about how thin, fat, toned, blond, brown, or short you are, and it has zero to do with the size of your breasts. Your beauty is something you dictate. A confident woman is ten times more attractive than someone who is insecure. A woman who is kind and laughs is more beautiful than a woman who is cold and distant.
Ladies, you have to be nicer to yourselves just as men have to learn to not be superficial. Feeling good about yourself is not narcissism. Saying you are beautiful is not being conceited.
We all need work. Let’s start by calling the women in our lives “beautiful.” Not because we need to build them up. Not because we need to balance anything out. We should do it because they truly are beautiful.
And now, let’s enjoy some much-needed humor this Monday morning. Enjoy!
And speaking of things that are fun and bring us joy, every time a new harry Potter movie or book comes out, without fail, we get the psychos. Pat Robertson is already out in full force, but this gentleman takes the cake. Yeah, he’s a comedian, but the scary thing is that I’ve heard people who talk like him.
The Amazing Spider-Man is coming out next year, and we’ve already been treated to a blurry teaser filmed in a movie studio. That doesn’t mean we can’t look back on the old cartoon and guess at the kinds of things we can expect from a darker take on our favorite web-slinger.
To paraphrase the Daily Show, religion brings us together in a world torn apart by religion.
June 3, 2011
No, not THAT kind of Jewish problem, although this was perhaps the most shocking title I could think of to get some attention. If you clicked on the link hoping for some anti-Semitic post, you’re out of luck, pal. Try THIS charming pile of dogma and race-based attacks.
However, this does bring up an odd point when it comes to Americans and Israel. Obama gave a speech where he asked for Israel to go back to the borders it had in the 1960’s. It’s not a stance that’s new or even that controversial. Even Dubya made the same proposal without too much fanfare by comparison. However, the response from the Right was “Obama wants to destroy Israel because he’s suggesting a course of action Israel doesn’t want to follow.”
In fact, any time someone mentions a course of action that might inconvenience Israel, the Right has a collective heart attack. We must stand with Israel, they say! We have to stand by them no matter what!
Okay, let’s look at this from a purely physical sense. Has the global Jewish community suffered? Oh, of course. No matter how people insist on denying it, the Holocaust occurred, and even before that, Jews were often rounded up into ghettos and anti-Semitism is not a new phenomenon. Whether or not you believe Israel should have been created is another matter, but the reality is that the state exists and it faces serious questions as to how it and its neighbors will coexist.
But since when do we just give a free pass to any country to just do whatever it wants? Why do we believe we must help Israel at all costs JUST BECAUSE it is Israel? Remember, these are the same American conservatives who balk at the idea of affirmative action and welfare.
The answer has to do with the American Christian conservatives. If you’ve ever read through the book of Revelation, and it’s a fun read if you’re drunk, you’d know that Jews returning to the Holy Land is one of the conditions that must happen before Christ returns. And Christ returning is a big deal. He’s going to be on boxes of Wheaties and get his own toy in Happy Meals.
It will be a glorious day for Christendom, a day Christians have been eagerly awaiting for more than two thousand years…
Except that it doesn’t end well for the Jewish community. Not at all. See, the list of who gets to go to heaven is, well… small.
They link Hebrew teachings and Israel like they link Christianity and America. Of course, Israel really was founded on Jewish principles for Jewish people.
But think about this for a moment. Like I said, the Right gives Israel a free pass because Jews have suffered, yet the Right doesn’t like entitlement programs. A lot of the attitude we have in this country towards Israel is based on the idea that we have to make things fair for them. The Right says we must do everything in our power to help Israel, yet what they really want is to hasten the End Times. And like I said, it doesn’t end well for, well, anyone.
When someone says not supporting Israel, no matter what the country does, is anti-Semitic, please remind them that there is a difference between the state and the religion. This isn’t about what is best for the nation or for Judaism. This rant is about this country’s default position and why we go there. I’m not saying to not support Israel, because I think we should. I just wonder at both our motives and our real reasons for wanting to help them. Beck and others like him don’t really understand the concept and, although I’m sure Beck is just putting on a show for money, many only want to help Jews because they believe it will bring Jesus back.
One entire ethnicity wiped out so JC can come back? Sounds fair, right?
And finally, to really get an idea of the kind of brain washing we subject our population to, the kind of thinking we instill on children, check out the following video explaining why we have so many patriots who dogmatically defend this country despite reason. See you on Monday!
Ann Coulter may laugh when someone brings up racism since she believes racism no longer exists. It’s possible to say that we’ve cleared away a lot of the old racism, but racism is still here. Yes, we elected a black president, but that gets rid of racism much like going to college means you develop common sense.
It just doesn’t happen.
The wave of Islamophobia moving across the country, everything from the Park51 project, to the vandalized mosques across the country, and even to the new “high birther” comments from Mike “Selective Outrage” Huckabee, show that racism is alive and well. We once targeted Catholics, the Irish, and Jews, and blamed the country’s problems on minority groups with little to no representation or way to get their message out.
And if you think Islamophobia is just a legitimate concern over real terrorism, then please explain this video.
In case you skipped it, we now have video of two state representatives saying, among other things, that they would be willing to let Muslims go to paradise by force (do I have to spell it out) and that they were proud of the protestors.
Yes, I can see how you would be proud of protestors heckling and shouting insults at women and children a worthy cause.
Women and children… This was a fundraiser to build a women’s shelter and help the poor. Now, granted, one of the speakers was linked to the 1993 WTC bombings and has some anti-Semitic viewpoints, but does that taint the entire group?
I know Mexicans who would love to invade Texas. Does that make me dangerous radical because I too hail from the land of tequila?
Of course not. My anarcho-humanist tendencies and the fact that I know how to build an A-bomb with smoke detectors is what makes me dangerous.
And for the twelve federal agencies monitoring internet content, that last line was a joke.
Watch that video again. Multiculturalism is bad. Islam is bad. Muslims all support terrorism. Muslim men beat their wives. Muslims are pedophiles. Death is the only solution.
This is the mentality of the Far Right, but it’s only because the Far Right doesn’t mind being exposed. It doesn’t care what others think of it. There are people who espouse similar beliefs and cloak them under the guise of academics and logic.
And finally, I am not a fan of Apple products in general. I like iTunes and my iPod. That’s about it. And yes, I’ve worked on Macbooks and used Apple products for work. Don’t like them. Don’t like the iPad, so I really got a kick out of this little video… Anyway, I’ll see you Friday. Keep sharing links, folks!
It’s a common belief that more people are afraid of public speaking than they are of death, and so goes the joke that at a funeral, most people would rather be in the coffin than behind the pulpit.
Now imagine that not just public speaking, but the future of two dozen lives, are part of your job description. Imagine knowing that whatever social life you had left will be gone. Grades, lessons, and readings are your new high. Analysis, lectures, and helping to mold the next generation are the only things you’ll do throughout the week for most of the year.
It’s a wonderful life if you love to teach… but it’s a job not everyone can do.
Before I get to the Wisconsin protests, a word on educating…
Teaching is not babysitting. Don’t ever make the mistake of saying that. I won’t claim there aren’t bad teachers. Of course there are. I’ve worked with some and was taught by others, but the primary purpose of a teacher is to impart knowledge. A teacher should serve as a supplementary educator to the parents who instill the primary lessons at home and help with the academics.
Babysitters? How many babysitters educate your children in a dozen different subjects? The educational system needs work, but that’s no reason to turn on the educators whose hands are tied by current regulations. When I applied to UISD, I was flat-out asked if I had a problem implementing No Child Left Behind. Oh, I had a big problem. I learned and graduated in spite of it, not because of it.
The teachers and other union workers in Wisconsin are trying to get the right to bargain for their salaries and benefits. Unions have a messy history, but to dismiss the very idea of unions is just like dismissing the idea of teachers because there are a few bad ones. Saying you had a bad experience with a bad union, therefore all unions are bad, is like hitting an illegal immigrant with no driver’s license, then blaming immigration reform instead of the fact that you have no insurance.
Okay, maybe that last one’s a stretch, but you get the point.
All over the country, people are protesting the building of new mosques. The main fear is that these mosques will be used as training grounds for terrorism, because, as we all know, that’s what mosques do. Kind of how Catholic churches train pedophiles. Or how colleges make progressive terrorists.
The point isn’t even about the mosque’s location. It’s about racism. Plain and simple. If you know someone is against this construction, ask them this question.
“Who is responsible for the 9/11 attacks?”
It wasn’t the Muslim community, and yet I had a very long debate with someone who agreed with me and insisted it didn’t make a difference. He said that while it was a small group of radicals, they’d tainted the rest and we needed to act accordingly.
Wow. I’d never heard anyone outline their racism so eloquently.
That’s what this is all about. People are forgetting that while the hijackers were Muslim, they were not representative of the more than one billion Muslims on the planet. Going back to the Catholic analogy, yes, Catholic priests did molest children, but they were not representative of all Catholicism. Unless, of course, you believe we should ban Catholics from building churches near schools, parks, and residential areas.
The worst part of all this is that it’s part of a pattern. America goes through this every few decades. Lincoln was accused of being Catholic at a time when many in America were Protestant. Franklin D. Roosevelt was accused of being a Jew. Now, Obama is accused of being a Muslim.
Every few decades, we find a new group to blame. And every few decades, we see the error in our ways and that group finds itself fully integrated into American society. Try finding anyone mainstream who makes Jews or Catholics the targets of society’s problems.
That’s not to say Muslims aren’t already integrated into American society. After all, Muslims died on 9/11, too. They hold prayer services at the Pentagon, an ACTUAL site of one of the 9/11 attacks. I understand racism. I understand where it comes from.
If you’re reading this and you don’t think Muslims have the right to build a mosque that close to Ground Zero or anywhere else in this country, I have a few things to ask you.
Should we ban white people from being anywhere segregation was practiced? The harm they did to generations of blacks is monumental. Treating an entire race as second-class citizens, lynching, and otherwise shunning others to the lowest levels of society impacted millions.
Are Japanese or Japanese-descended Americans allowed in Hawaii? You probably don’t want them anywhere near Peal Harbor even though a sizable percentage of the Hawaiian population is Japanese or descended from them. And by the way, there is a Shinto temple not far from Pearl Harbor.
Can blacks vote? Even though the voter intimidation story was blown out of proportion, there really is a New Black Panther party. Seeing as how a few thugs tried to intimidate voters, can blacks still vote?
Given that some of our soldiers in the Middle East engaged in war crimes by killing civilians, should we never again allow military personnel to work with civilians? Maybe we can make large groups of former soldiers and marines to work construction since we can’t trust them with non-combatants.
People screaming that Muslims are showing callousness by building this mosque think they’re being insulted because the protestors believe ALL Muslims are to blame. If I were racist and hated blacks and demanded that blacks move away from my home, would I be well within my rights to say I was the grieved party because they would not bow to my ignorance and racism?
Like I said, we’ve gone through this before. Before we get to the links, though, I want to show you something.
Every generation seems to find something to fear. Communists. The Civil Rights Movement. Immigrants. Gays. Whatever. This video is from 1947 and it shows just the kind of fracturing that Fox, Beck, Bachmann, Palin, Limbaugh, and all these other wastes of skin are creating. I’m probably breaking Godwin’s Law, but I’d like to create Martin del Campo’s Law, an updated version.
Once you compare someone to a terrorist, you fail. Terrorists: they’re like Nazis for the 21st century.
Watch for the moment where one man in the crowd is all for “reclaiming America,” one second… only to realize HE’S suddenly become the enemy.
And now time for links! Because we could ALL use a good laugh.
One more quick New York City mosque story. Glenn Beck has been one of the more vocal voices demonizing this project, and yet, four years ago, he applauded and endorsed the imam in charge! Need we say more about this money-whore?
If this study showing that Darwin was wrong about evolution proves correct, I guarantee that creationists will jump on it and declare evolution dead. However, this new study claims that Darwin was simply wrong about what causes evolution. It claims that the need for more space, not necessarily competition, caused adaptation.
Who doesn’t love the gay community? Not me. It’s sad we still need to fight for gay rights and equality, but at least we get to enjoy some VERY funny protest signs.
Remember a few years ago when everyone got real excited about wine being good for you? Guess what? Now rave drugs are also good for you! When the study comes out that proves tequila increases your life span, I’m celebrating until I forget what I was celebrating.
And finally, just when you thought you had to work hard to make it in this world… it’s now reported in various outlets that the Situation, one of the d-bags from Jersey Shore, will make $5 million this year. That’s right. Let that sink in, and I’ll see you on Friday.
All the Holocaust deniers in the room say "Hey-oh!"
May 28, 2010
“Everybody Draw Mohammed Day” was an act of protest and an exercise in speech and religious freedom. Threats of violence, calls for the deaths of entire countries, are the political and religious tantrums of zealots who cannot stand to have their beliefs scrutinized, and in that respect, we won.
Which is why, of course, our opponents will now have a counter-protest by exposing Jewish lies regarding the Holocaust.
…Did I miss something or did I participate in the wrong protest?
I and others drew the prophet Mohammed, in violation of a particular interpretation of Islamic law, because we believe that we have no obligation to have someone else’s faith dictate our actions. Your right to religion ends outside yourself. You have no right to coerce or intimidate others to believe what you believe. Others will do things that offend you, but that’s what dialogue and debate is for. If someone does something you don’t like, point it out, explain your position, but that is as far as you are allowed to go.
And now a regular think-tank on Facebook is striking back by exposing the “lies” of the Holocaust in “Everybody Draw Holocaust Day.”
A few things, if I may, for the people involved in this, and I use the term loosely, “protest.”
It was a cartoonist from Seattle. And as far as I know, she’s not Jewish. A newspaper in Pakistan even asked her to draw a cartoon condemning the banning of face veils in France, which she did. Right off the bat, this is the equivalent of a “Yo mama” joke. You have no ammunition to throw at your target, so you’re going after something or someone you feel is easy to hit.
It’s a bit like wanting to speak out against BP for the oil spill by fire-bombing a McDonalds. Your logic is not like our Earth logic.
Of course, it does provide evidence, though not concrete proof, that you believe in the mighty Zionist Conspiracy. Good luck with that.
Art, film, books, even comic book movies have shown the Holocaust. There’s nothing taboo about this! In fact, Jews have led the fight to educate people about the Holocaust and helped found a United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington DC. I’ve been there. It’s utterly heart-wrenching to see the bodies piled up like that, but no one is trying to hide it. Showing these images is not going to offend anyone unless you take joy in the slaughter of millions of Jews.
4) …You missed the point.
One of the big critiques of Draw Mohammed Day was that images of the Prophet were insulting to Islam. Ergo, you believe, perpetuating Holocaust denial claims, which are insulting to Jews, historians, and anyone with an ounce of decency and common sense, is a productive counter-protest.
You are, after all, exercising your right to free speech. You want to draw pictures that demonize Jews, Israel, and one of the most vicious crimes in world history? You want to spread images that show Jews are the secret force behind the New World Order? You want to go out of your way to offend people ONLY to offend them?
5) Please, go ahead with this. It only helps my side.
That’s right. As much as I despise Holocaust deniers and as much as I think you’re missing your frontal lobes for not understanding the rationale behind the drawings, I want you to go ahead and do this. Not only will you show yourselves for the bigoted, irrational, fanatics that you are, not only will you show the world that you are willing to lie and distort history for your own benefit, but you will simply give my side more to work with. We already know that people who condemn free speech have no place in free society, but now we’ll also learn about your anti-Semitism and paranoia.
I won’t make threats against you. I will not say you cannot draw these images, but I will, and you can bet there will be others, come to the defense of truth and history and will destroy whatever warped logic you use to make your point.
And that’s the beauty of this system. By having a political tantrum aimed at the wrong group and with the wrong tactics, you’ve given up any legitimacy to your argument that Islam is a religion of peace.
Out of the billion and a half Muslims in the world, there is a percentage that believes in peace, in co-existence, in living by the commands of the Qur’an that state that violence is a sin. A religion of peace? Maybe, but trust me when I say that acts like “Draw Holocaust Day” do more harm to your cause than ANY cartoon ever could.
I did what I did to show I can. You’re doing what you’re doing to spread misinformation and hate to show that you stand with truth and peace.
Seriously. Rick Perry, governor of Texas, said, with no unclear terms, that Texas would leave the union if the federal government didn’t stop, you know, doing the things the federal government has to do. At the time, his statements draw a lot of criticism from many in the media, and it’s been over a year since he made them, but the way things are going right now, I am actually scared that some of these wastes of genetic material may act on this rhetoric.
Perry made the comments in the environment of the first Tea Parties. Ah, the first Tea Parties. Hard to think it was roughly a year ago that they first started popping up like syphilis lesions. Anyway, there hasn’t been a lot of talk about this in the news, but if you don’t live in Texas, you need to understand something.
Because the government isn’t doing what they want. And of course, when the government doesn’t do what you want it to do, your only course of action is to leave the Union and establish your own nation. After all, we should be able to do it, right? We’re a big state. We have oil. And uhm… we have a coast line. And the Cowboys.
Well, crap, guess we’ll have to give the military bases back. Along with NASA, all federal agencies, the post office, and FEMA aid. We do after all, live right on Tornado Alley. Hey, no one said starting a new country would be cheap.
I bring this up, though, because the violent rhetoric from the Tea Party, physical attacks on Congress, and the general feeling by a not-insignificant part of the population that the government is physically coming to get them are fanning fires, brings to light that my state isn’t the only star that wants to jump from the flag. I know Texas won’t secede. I know no state will secede. They can’t. They have too much to lose, but in the meantime, there will be complete frontal lobe cases who won’t think it through and may do things that could get a lot of people hurt. Just because the revolution doesn’t go all the way through doesn’t mean people won’t get caught in the crossfire.
This talk of secession, and Texas is by no means the only state to have tried it without counting the Civil War, is the kind of thing I remember seeing in Indiana some years back.
Not that Indiana wanted to leave the Union when I studied there.
I used to work as a student processor at the DePauw University Archives. Apart from college records and artifacts, we handled the records for Methodist churches in a large section of the state. I was amazed, really shocked, at the number of churches that sprang up over the course of a century. Some lasted a few years. Others moved. When looking over their histories, you could trace many of them in a sort of religious family tree.
The funny thing is that it wasn’t so much churches branching out to bring the good word to other parts of the state. Most of these churches, at least the ones I had to process, were off-shoots of other churches because there had been some sort of schism within the congregation. Having read the histories of many of these churches, I can’t think of what would prompt them to split like this. Did someone bring the wrong kind of cookies to the bake sale? Someone not like the Colts?
And where are all these new churches full of energy and vitality that stuck it to the Man and went on their own?
Drive across Indiana. You’ll see them. Abandoned. A lot of churches didn’t last. Some did. For four years, I read their histories. I saw their photos. When I drove through the state, sometimes I could see one through the trees, sort of poking out as its white paint, now chipped, caught a bit of the sun.
It’s the social equivalent of “Fine! I’ll go play with my red ball all by myself.”
Texas takes a lot of pride in its independence. We were once a country. We have the largest land area in the country. Just don’t bring up Alaska. We own guns.
If a guy is arguing and he leaves the debate yelling, “I can’t work with this! Leave me alone,” everyone watching rightly assumes he got his ass handed to him. You can yell all you want. It doesn’t make you right. When I hear of states wanting to leave because of higher taxes, I wonder if they realize that they have the power to elect government officials. Never mind the fact that taxes actually went down this year. Our democracy is not perfect, I’ll admit. Some members of Congress will retire when they die or are caught in bed with either a dead woman or a live boy. But trying to get people on your side for Election Day is a lot more American, and a lot less bloody, than secession.
And that’s really what secession is all about. It’s un-American. You get so fed up that you put the state above the whole for petty reasons you can solve some other way. We are the United States. All of us. Neil Gaiman once wrote that we’re like a bunch of little nations, all sort of living together. He’s right. Someone from Indiana would be at a loss here in Laredo, Texas. They’d stand out like a nun at a whorehouse. Likewise, someone from south Texas would certainly have culture shock in the north. The cold alone would kill some of us.
Seriously. Anything below 70 degrees Fahrenheit and we shut down.
That doesn’t mean secession is the right choice. It’s nonsense. It won’t work for a variety of reasons. That doesn’t mean it won’t stop some idiots from claiming it’s a valid tactic when they disagree with the federal government. You don’t move out when your roommate leaves dishes in the sink. And you don’t beat him to a pulp either. You talk it through like civilized human beings.
And before I hear one more idiot say it, bringing up Texas secession and invoking the Alamo misses the point that the Texans lost. It’s kind of like giving astronauts a pep-talk by telling them their new computer system is named HAL.